Couples Therapy
Are You A Couple Having Trouble In Your Relationship?
Every couple is unique. Every couple deserves a counselor who will recognize that.
Are you and your partner struggling to understand each other and see eye to eye?
Do you find yourself running into the same conflicts and unhealthy patterns again and again?
Has infidelity broken the trust between you and you’re not sure how to get it back?
Perhaps arguments, poor communication, and a general sense of being unheard are creating distance between you and your partner. Or maybe you are questioning you and your spouse’s future together because of finances, secrets, infidelity, or intimacy issues. If this is the case, couples therapy can help you bridge your differences and deepen your love for each other.
You And Your Partner Might Have Different Expectations And Communication Styles
Couples run into relationship problems for all sorts of reasons. Maybe you and your significant other simply have different expectations for what you want out of a relationship. Perhaps you have different communication styles—one of you is very upfront about your feelings and the other is more withdrawn.
You might disagree about sex, daily responsibilities, and parenting techniques. And if you come from different cultural backgrounds, you may have trouble trying to balance and integrate different ways of life. And if you are in a Neurodiverse (Autism/ASD) relationship or marriage, you might be struggling to navigate the nuances of your partner’s behaviors or needs.
Just because you are experiencing relationship problems doesn’t mean that hope is lost—both of you just need a little guidance. And that is what I am here for—to show you and your partner that you are valued and worthy of love. With the communication and conflict resolution skills I offer, both of you can improve your relationship and learn to compromise while still remaining true to yourselves.
Every Relationship Goes Through Seasons Of Conflict
The majority of people eventually find themselves at some sort of impasse in relationships—it’s just natural. Unfortunately, most couples simply don’t anticipate how difficult relationships can be, nor do they have the inherent skills to manage conflict.
After all, we all have different family dynamics, backgrounds, and expectations for what a relationship should look like. Many feel that a significant other should complete them while others feel that a significant other is responsible for filling the emotional voids in their life.
The fact is, being in a relationship requires both being your own person and giving up a portion of yourself. But in today’s hectic, fast-paced world, many people are spread so thin between working, raising kids, and pursuing personal goals that they don’t have anything left to give their partner.
Gender Expectations Are Constantly Changing, Which Makes Relationships Tricky
In a world where many traditional gender roles are being questioned, lots of couples feel like they’re out in uncharted waters. This is especially true of LGBTQ couples, since they might not have relationship role models to look up to in the older generations.
Additionally, many men face evolving expectations for what it means to be a good father, husband, and provider in our ever-changing landscape of masculinity and gender roles. And many women struggle to balance being a mother with having a career.
Thankfully, there is a way to overcome obstacles and find common ground. With my help, you can get to the core of your challenges and achieve change that will benefit you and the future of your relationship or marriage.
Counseling Can Help Couples Improve Communication And Feel More Understood
Every couple is unique. In couples therapy, my goal is to honor the uniqueness of your relationship and come up with a therapeutic plan that is tailored to suit your needs and goals. I use a balanced, holistic approach that takes into account every area of your lives.
Ultimately, Couples counseling can help you develop a realistic view of your relationship challenges and understand each other on a deeper level. It allows you to communicate your feelings and gain a new perspective that stops the conflict cycles you keep getting stuck in. In time, both of you can feel more balanced, relaxed, and understood.
What To Expect In Marriage And Couples Therapy Sessions
Reaching out for help and opening up is already hard enough, especially for couples in conflict. That’s why I provide a relaxed, impartial approach that is free of judgment. That being said, one of the qualities that makes me unique as a couples therapist is that I won’t shy away from holding each person accountable for the dynamics that they bring to the relationship.
To peel away the layers and get to the core of what’s going on, we’ll begin our time together by examining your different backgrounds. We’ll look at your childhood, family dynamics, and past relationships. I’ll help you identify what truly makes each of you happy—and what doesn’t—so that you know how to make each other feel valued and understood.
My compassionate yet realistic approach focuses on creating solutions and cultivating acceptance for couples. Counseling can help you manage problems related to communication, intimacy, or infidelity. Additionally, we can work on healing early relationship wounds that may be affecting your relationship today.
Creating Your Couples Therapy Plan
Regardless of the stage of your relationship (married, unmarried, engaged, etc.), I am confident that I can assist you in strengthening your connection.
If you are in a mixed-race, multicultural, or LGBTQ relationship or marriage, counseling can help you navigate your unique connection and work on navigating the unknowns together. And as a certified Neurodiverse (ASD)/Neurotypical couples therapist with training through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), I am trained to help neurodiverse couples overcome problems and find acceptance for aspects of the relationship that they may not be able to change. I also specialize in working with biracial and multiracial couples who are struggling to navigate cultural differences.
I draw from a wide range of approaches to help couples, but one of the most important is the Gottman Method Relationship Inventory. This inventory provides an X-ray vision of the issues taking place in your relationship. It can help you evaluate your strengths and weakness on a deeper level.
Many of the couples that I work with tell me things that they’ve been holding inside for years. Being able to release those thoughts without judgment is incredibly therapeutic. Going to therapy gives you and your partner an awareness and knowledge that enables you to navigate future problems before they become unmanageable. And in the process, you can gain a greater sense of balance, appreciation, and love in your relationship.
Perhaps You Are Considering Couples Counseling But Still Have Some Concerns…
I want to be straightforward with my partner, but I don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Chances are you’ve already tried to express yourself without causing conflict. But no matter how peacefully you try to share your opinion, you can’t control someone else’s response. Couples therapy gives you a chance to voice your fears and concerns without getting drowned out. And because I can act as a sort of referee, I can help keep the emotional impact at a minimum so that no one gets hurt.
My partner refuses to go to couples therapy with me.
You can’t make people come to therapy, but you can work on yourself. Developing a holistic understanding of yourself and your strengths and weakness promotes personal growth that transcends your relationship. And learning how to assert yourself and adopt compromise without sacrificing your own needs makes the relationship stronger. Over time, your partner may see changes in you that inspire them to join you in counseling.
I feel too broken to make my relationship work.
Many people share the same feeling, but I can assure you that you are not broken. If you’ve been hurt in the past, it’s only natural to feel like you’ll never make a relationship work. That’s why my approach takes your whole history into account—I want to help you heal the emotional wounds that stem from previous relationships. Once we address those old wounds, you’ll realize that you are resilient and worthy of love.
Let Me Help You Heal And Strengthen Your Relationship
With my help, you can heal old wounds, grow closer to your partner, and safeguard your relationship. If you are looking for a therapist who specializes in working with neurodivergent couples, biracial/multiracial couples, and couples with Aspergers or autism, please choose from the options below to schedule an appointment.
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