4 Tips for Better Relationship Communication

Relationships are not always perfect and easy, despite what you may think based on movies and love songs. Sharing your life with another person can be a challenge sometimes. This is completely normal and to be expected!

Having an efficient and effective stream of communication with your partner is key when it comes to relationship health. If you feel like this is an area of your partnership that is lacking, there are plenty of ways to strengthen and improve it. Keep reading for some helpful tips and tricks on improving communication in your relationship. 

1. Figure out the proper timing for conversations

As the cliche goes, timing is truly everything. This goes for communicating with your partner as well. Even if there is something you want to discuss with your partner right away, if the timing is not right, it is better to wait until it is. Of course, if there is an urgent matter, wait to bring up the topic at your best discretion. 

Rather than initiating a serious conversation too early, like while in public or waiting several days to say something, consider putting aside time to hold important conversations. Whether this is biweekly or multiple times a week, having a designated time to have a serious talk can help you both be prepared and ensures it will not crop up at an awkward time.

2. Imagine how your partner feels

It is always best to treat others how you wish to be treated, especially when it comes to your romantic partner. When having a discussion or bringing up a touchy subject, truly take the time to consider how they may be feeling. If they have had a particularly stressful week, perhaps forgo mentioning how they have let their laundry pile grow too big. 

This also goes for the tone of your voice and body language. Raising your eyebrows or speaking sternly can convey a message you may not mean to send. Put yourself in their shoes when you are trying to get anything across.

3. Be the best listener you can be

Half of effective communication is active listening. Be sure you are not just hearing your partner, be sure you are listening as well. This goes hand in hand with tip two. Be the type of listener you would want to talk to. 

Some ways you can practice active listening is by maintaining proper body language, such as eye contact, and asking affirming questions. This way, your partner knows you do not just hear them; you understand and care about what they are saying. 

4. Always say what you mean 

Sometimes it may seem easier to be passive-aggressive or beat around the bush. This is never the right answer. In a mature relationship, you and your partner should be able to take one another’s word at face value. Say what you mean and mean what you say. As wonderful as it may be, your partner is (probably) not a mind reader. This means you may need to be very frank at times, even if it is uncomfortable. However, honesty is the hallmark foundation of any great relationship.

Hopefully, some of these tips will give you the tools you need to be successful in your love life. Remember, not every day will be great, but most days should be. If you are confused about whether your relationship just needs some extra help or is past the point of saving, please consider talking to a trained professional. I am happy to speak to either you, your partner or both of you together in a couple’s counseling session. Reach out today.